(This Your Turn was written by four teenage girls at the Florence Crittenton Home, and we have taken the unusual step of agreeing not to name them.)

If the movie "Juno" reflected the reality of teenage pregnancy, there would be no need for a place like Florence Crittenton Home. We know. We are four teens living at Florence Crittenton Home here in Helena. Three of us, ages 17, 17, and 16, are about 26-weeks along in our pregnancies. One of us is 15 and has a one-year-old son. We are from Great Falls, Helena, Kansas City and Whitefish.

Recently a donor sent money to Florence Crittenton so that all of us could see "Juno," a movie about a 16-year-old high school girl, named Juno, who finds out she is pregnant. The movie shows her telling her family: her step-mother tells her to start taking prenatal vitamins, "cause they make your nails pretty." She tells the baby's father, but she doesn't want his emotional support during her pregnancy. The community she lives in seems to be okay with her pregnancy. She decides early in her pregnancy to find an adoptive family, selecting the first adoptive family she finds in the Penny Saver, and choosing not to see the baby. She hands him to the adoptive mother at the end of the movie. Thirty-seven weeks after finding out she was pregnant, Juno looks forward to pretending she never had a baby.

This is not reality.

Family reality: What happens in the movie is not what happens when you are a teen and tell your parents (or for one of us, our grandparents). No one said "okay." Nobody just says "okay." When we first told our families, they all tried to convince us to have an abortion or put "it" up for adoption. Family members offered to pay for the abortions. Because of our choices to continue our pregnancies, two of us quickly found ourselves homeless and applied to live in the Pathways To Success program at Florence Crittenton Home. One of us, against her will, was sent to Florence Crittenton by her mother. Only one of us had an understanding mother; the one who was raped when she was 13. But they still tried to get her to choose adoption.

Boyfriend reality: One of us is lucky. Her fiancé stayed with her. He lives in Helena and they get to see each other a lot. He attends parenting classes with her so that when the baby is born they will be better able to provide the best care. But that isn't the way it is for most girls our age. From what we've seen, your boyfriend is either going to beat you up for getting pregnant or you're going to get walked out on and told goodbye. In the movie, Juno pushes her boyfriend away. But if you are pregnant, you are already so emotionally insecure that you would never (ever, ever, ever amen) push anyone away who was there for you.

Community reality: We all think Helena is a pretty understanding community. A lot more understanding than the communities we came from. We have seen girls get beat up because they are pregnant. We've seen them get put down and called names. No one comes to their defense. Luckily, Helena is not that way. We all go to Helena High and everyone there has been pretty indifferent. Nowhere is kind to pregnant teens.

Adoption reality: The movie made Juno's adoption decision look way too easy. Once she decided on adoption, she picked the first family she found -- a family that had advertised in the Penny Saver (a weekly advertiser like Helena's Adit). Advertisements of this type are actually not legal. She did not have a background check done on them. She didn't research or think twice. If you do an adoption plan, you don't find parents out the Penny Saver.

Whether you are a teenager or an adult, you have a connection with your baby when you are pregnant. You love your baby before it's born. You have a connection. It's not a dog that you decide you don't want and take to the pound. One of us nicknamed her baby "tadpole" as soon as she found out she was pregnant. One of us cried for hours on end when she thought she had miscarried. Even though we didn't want to be pregnant in the first place, we all had fears of miscarriage once we knew we were.

You have to have been pregnant before to understand. Before one of us got pregnant, she always thought she would get an abortion if she ended up pregnant. But once she found out she was pregnant she fell in love with the baby inside of her -- immediately.

So many people already don't understand us and this movie does not help. People don't understand why we don't want to give our babies up. We have all considered adoption. Our families all pushed us to consider writing adoption plans. One of us just told her mother "This is my child, Mom. You don't have to be a part of this, but this is my child."

At Florence Crittenton Home, our therapists have talked to us about writing adoption plans. They don't push us, though; they just want to make sure we know all of our options. If we did decide to write adoption plans, they offer a lot of counseling because of how hard it is.

The actuality of being a pregnant teenager is so different from the movie "Juno." Juno's was so easy. We can see how someone could enjoy the movie "Juno." It was cute and funny, but not realistic. We probably would have enjoyed it if we weren't pregnant or parenting. But we are. And it isn't easy.